Take Time

Tell your children they can be anything they want in life.
Your voice will always be in the back of their head. Let the words they hear to be those of encouragement

Ask them what they admire about themselves, and add your own observations. 
Include stories about their character that makes you proud.

Keep a distraction free zone when together: No phones, or hand held games.
Nothing can be more hurtful to a child then feeling less important then a phone call or text message. The same is true for parents feeling ignored and unappreciated while a child focuses on device during conversation.

Express yourself by remembering to tell your own ah-ha moments.
You were a kid once too! Tell stories from when you were unsure, worried, or otherwise, and how you overcame those obstacles. This will help your child to see you as human and not always perfect.


Trust that you have provided your children with the right tools.
If you trust your children, they will trust themselves. If you don’t trust them, they will wonder what you see that they don’t, and may begin destructive behavior since their character has been harmed.

Independent of others create a monthly night out together.
This night is about doing what your child wants to do with you. It’s imperative that you be unguarded and open during this time so you can have fun together. Do not intermingle this night with errands, or cancel unless it’s an emergency. Make this night a tradition, and you will continue to create memories for years to come.

Make sure your words inspire their spirit at all times.
Most of us can remember a negative comment from our parents. Use your words for their benefit not their detriment. If you feel you have said something in stride, apologize, and say it was not true.

Empower them to take opportunities that come their way.
The most successful people in the world say yes to opportunities before they disappear forever. Encourage your children to develop a habit of taking opportunities.